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The timing chain went out on Billy's car last week. It took almost every bit of money we had to buy parts and supplies for it. I knew we wouldn't do without anything major, the bills are paid and we have a kitchen full of food, but I suddenly refused to be short on money. Everytime the thought that the little bit of money we had wouldn't last until payday entered my mind, I simply said, quietly but firmly, "There will be enough." Last night I got in from work and Billy was absolutely stir crazy from being cooped up in the apartment. We took our last three dollars and went out for coffee. As I left that last dollar for the waitresses tip, I said it again. "There will be enough." My paycheck wasn't due to be direct deposited until Wednesday but this morning when Billy checked the account, it was there. There was enough.

Now, if I could just get Billy to see that. I understand why he has such a pessimistic outlook. His early years taught him that things were going to go wrong. Now, he draws it too him with his thoughts and words. Then, when they do go wrong he figures God is punishing him for something. The new timing chain is on the car and works perfectly, but there is a leak from the water pump. For the second time. He put new gaskets in and the leak that was in the right port stopped. Only to be replaced by a leak in the left port. Once again, "God is punishing me." Maybe, just maybe, this time he will let go of his pessimistic attitude and it will work.
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Thank you for sharing this story with us dear Susan.
I found a nice poem for you and Billy

Steppingstones to God

An aching heart is but a steppingstone
To greater joy than you've ever known,
For things that cause the heart to ache
Until you think that it must break,
Become the strength by which we climb
To higher heights that are sublime,
And feel the radiance of God's smiles
When we have soared above life's trials.

So when you're overwhelmed with fears
And all your hopes are drenched in tears,
Think not that life has been unfair
And given you too much to bear.

For God has chosen you because,
With all your weaknesses and flaws,
He feels that you are worthy of
The greatness of His wondrous love.

So welcome every stumbling block
And every thorn and jagged rock;
For each one is a steppingstone
To God, who wants you for His own.

For discipline in daily duty
Will shape your life for deeper beauty;
And as you grow in strength and grace,
The clearer you can see God's face;
And on the steppingstones of strife,
You reach at last eternal life.

~ Helen Steiner Rice ~


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Thank you, Inda. That is a beautiful poem. I read it to Billy last night and he loved it. He really is trying to work on his pessimism and I understand how his life helped him to develop it. I think I may be the first person he has ever had in his life that believes that such statements create a life that matches the belief.


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Dear Susan,
Thank you for sharing your own wisdom. Billy is fortunate to have you as a guide and a mentor.


The important thing is to learn a lesson every time you lose. Life is a learning process and you have to try to learn what's best for you. Let me tell you, life is not fun when you're banging your head against a brick wall all the time.

Japanese wisdom


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Originally posted by dear losgann:
...Maybe, just maybe, this time he will let go of his pessimistic attitude and it will work.

Wonderful answers Inda and Yoko! Asian sweety Kiss

I think it has all been said... Well, I'll add an experience of mine Susan:

I used to play a lot of bluesy, dissonant flamenco type of music. At one point, my life was really getting tense, stressful, HARD, and although I could enjoy PLAYING MY FEELINGS, hitting those harsh notes with my pain, aaaAAHHH! Well, I decided to play only melodic, peaceful, gentle melodies. Wow of wows. As soon as I stopped playing all that bluesy sad angry music, my life stopped having all the things that were sad and angry! Really!

I started really "using" or doing my "Affirmatinas," my own word for my little positive affirmation songs. I am certain they "work!" It's sort of like saying "hi beautiful!" to yourself in the mirror, 1) it works, and 2) if it doesn't hey, it don't hurt to get a compliment! RaisedBrows Nut

Through my experience stopping playing bluesy sad songs and what happened I decided that playing something like the blues, well for that matter ANY AND ALL complaining about a situation, well, there is a time and place where that is useful. In other words, Billy can keep the issue / feelings / experience AVAILABLE, so that when ever he needs to tell a sob story, well, HE HAS ONE! But, to live in the sad bluesy song all the time... that is simply feeding into what is called "self-fulfilling-prophecy" probably the most true of all types of prophecy.. Mad Aaah

From George Clinton

Mind your wants


somebody wants your mind!

Love and LIGHTNESS, Teo Hearthead

Have the heart of a gypsy, and the dedication of a soldier -Beethoven in Beethoven Lives Upstairs

Dear Susan,
You are a very nice person and a good example for Billy. With your help he will be able to look at the more positive things. Sending prayers for him to overcome his negative views, where not necessary, and prayers of energy to you that you can keep helping Billy to become more positive.

Vicky 2Hearts


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Dear Susan,
I am sure that your positive example will help dear Billy to let go of his fears and to be aware of the wonderful truth that God does not want to punish him, but that He only wants to help him and to make him accept the never ending abundant gifts He showers us with.

May you move ahead and may you lack nothing.

Margherita Hug

I’m open to love,  my heart invites you to dance,  come share my delight

senryu by Margherita

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