There is no formula for removing doubts because finding the knower inside is personal. You have to be committed to expanding your awareness. Don't be in doubt about that one thing. If you turn inward and follow the path that leads to your inner intelligence, the knower will be there waiting for you.
-Dr. Deepak Chopra, The Book Of Secrets page 96 (italics mine)
It seems as if the social self is the reflection, as if looking through a window-don't be befuddled by your reflection, just see what is outside through your image. It also seems that the inner self's formulas are individual-there is no one answer for everyone, you just have to "be" who and what you are. "Fitting in" is secondary - arbitrary. This is correct self-centeredness he he..
May we all joyfully tread the path to our inner intelligence. Amen. And so it is.
Love and light being, Teo