I have a friend who asked a choreographer if it was a requirement for a male dancer to be gay and she replied "no but it helps." He was aware that I had done ballet for a time when he made me giggle with that quote. He also knew I was not gay. Not all pansies are men, either is what I was thinking. When my sister and I were still babies our first mother's helper was a lovely woman named Pansy Brown from Jamaica. Pansies are in the same family as Violas, and as a child I went to Viola Wolfe's dancing school where I was taught to tango by a beautiful and talented dancer named Merillee. Viola Wolfe knew how to pick 'em. My advice is plant violas in the shady places because they do better than a lot of other species and always go dancing with Wolfes. I'd add to that - if you're going to San Francisco, be sure to wear some flowers in your hair.